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HE IS MARRIED BUT I REALLY WANT HIM

Posted: 08:26
Some people may curse and abuse me but then I can't help voicing out and seeking for help on what am about to share here.

I started have an affair with a married man (before he got married) sometime last year who used to be my next-door neighbor. He moved away shortly after he got married early this year, so I didn't get to meet his wife. We reconnected 2 months ago and since then we have secretly been going out and having sex. I’m completely in love with him and always long to be with him. He tells me that he doesn't love his wife and that he was forced to marry her because he got her pregnant. He’s always happy to see me whenever we meet and he buys me lovely presents. His body language tell me he has deep feelings for me but don't know how to handle it because of his wife and two young children. I really can't stop seeing him and I honestly want to have him all to myself. But knowing that he has a family makes it difficult for us to express our love openly. Recently, he opened up to me that he was considering a divorce so we can finally be together but that he wanted to know what I think about it first. I told him to give me time to think about it. Honestly, even though am yet to tell him my mind, I think my mind is made up to encourage him to go ahead with the divorce as I can't see myself loving another man the way I love him. I know he will be happy when I do tell him, but am just delaying it so as to be sure he really wants me.

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1 comments:

  1. Hi, It seems pretty simple to me - he loves you, you love him, he says he is in a loveless marriage and wants out of it, so he can be with you.
    Of course, he will probably have to pay maintenance for his 2 kids with his wife, if they are his and they will come and visit you both, when it is his turn to have them, but kids are innocent and should never be put in a position where they can abuse either of you, or vice versa.
    I would suggest you both go ahead with his separation from his wife and that he move in with you, during that time, for you both to get the feel of each other and make sure it all works just fine.
    From previous divorces, I think he probably has to be apart from his wife for 1 year, before he can begin divorce proceedings, but you can both check on that.
    Make sure he contributes from his income to your expenses - what you can suggest is that he officially rents a room from you, for rent, plus expenses, plus food, irrespective of if you share the same bed and then, if for any reason, it does not work out, because he rents a room from you, he is not entitled to anything more than what he brought from his own home, into yours, when he moves out - by LAW and it is something I do with all of my "female partners" and it is a great tactic and avoids messy breakups totally.
    If he does not agree to that, I would be inclined to think his heart is not in the right place and you might be better to avoid him like the plague - because any relationship has to be based on mutual trust and if he does not trust you enough to rent a room from you, to begin with, then what is the point, after all, when you get married, he is probably entitled to half then anyway, so this would also be an incentive for him, to marry you, sooner or later.
    Do admit that you are getting rent, especially for taxation purposes and to keep things honest - however expenses and food are not taxable items and you don't declare those. OK?
    Best Wishes and Good Luck, both of you.

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